How to dump burn out and date yourself.

solopreneurproblems

At one point a long time ago, when I was running my online wellness biz , I was so tied up in writing blog posts, program creation, client work, list growth, billing, and the actual coaching part that I felt like I was in a slightly, screwy relationship.

It was like the honeymoon stage of a new relationship. I know you know what I'm talking about.

I was staying up late with no boundaries.

Forgetting to eat and then over eating

It was more important than the gym.

It was all I could think about. Obsessed.

My friends never heard from me and my husband would have to hang out with me in my home office. (LAME)

I had a one track mind.

Until it all blew up in my face. 

I wasn't sleeping. Barely functional. 

I was sick with colds and an upset stomach.

I couldn't talk about anything else but.

I . was . exhausted and lacking passion. 

I knew what I had to do. 

I had to get my shit together and ...

 

I had to dump my burn out.

 

When you are burnt out, you aren't excited about your biz, or really anything at all. It straight up doesn't feel good.

Nothing is getting done. You dread consults.

All you want to do is be alone. But really you need help .

 

How the hell is that good for business ?

 

 

Here is exactly how I dumped burn out and started "dating" myself.

 

1. I remembered why I decided to go into business for myself.

 

Freedom + passion + helping women take back their lives = my why.

Think about what your original mission was in the beginning of your business.

Questions to ask yourself:

  • How does your current lifestyle align with that goal?
  • What doesn’t align and how can you adapt (I’m not saying cut out) to create a better fit?

 

2. I fell back in love with myself and became my own #1.
 

Life was getting so crazy busy that sleep wasn't even on my to do list.

I felt pulled in so many directions and all I had left was attitude. This resulted in crying fits, emotional eating and pity parties.

I had forgotten to take care of myself. I was neglecting and self bullying. I was a bitch.

I was also lacking confidence to put myself out there and share my message but I was ashamed of what I had done to myself. I was stuck in comparison mode.

I decided that I had to be my own # 1.  

I had to love myself up. And be supportive for myself. I had to get my own ass up to make healthier eating habits happen and get my ass to the gym.

These small steps were choices. I chose me.

Question to ask yourself:

What can you do in the next 3 hours to love yourself up ?

 

3. I made boundaries actually happen.


Instead of working all damn day and late into the night, I started scheduling my time. 

I schedule everything ! When I get up, shower, get dressed, walk the dogs, breakfast, work 9am to 12pm, then lunch. I grab my gear and head to the gym. Jump back in at 2pm to 4pm. Then I'm off for the day. No checking emails or computer work. Time for fun and life experience.

( I use a passion planner to keep track and this thing is the shit ! )

You may already be basing your working hours around your family schedule but I mean really schedule it. Break down what needs to happen in your business into smaller tasks. Plan exactly when you will do each task and the time required to complete each task.

 

I'm curious to know what was your breaking point before you dumped burn out and what tips would you give someone who is struggling staying balanced in their biz and life ? Share in the comments below.